Wednesday, 10 September 2014
National Suicide Awareness Day
So its national suicide prevention day. Roughly every 40 seconds someone dies from a suicide, and its thought that for every suicide there are 20 more people attempting suicide. This is something very close to my heart, I have been suicidal, I have made attempts, and I have recently lost a couple of people I care about to suicide. If your struggling right now, you don't have to read on, it might not help.
There are different kinds of suicide and suicidal behaviours. Ones that are officially called suicide are planned and thought through and a note tends to be left, in these cases they consider it clear that the person intended to end their life and it wasn't an impulsive decision. Then their is accidental death and death by misadventure, which is where someone has intended to seriously injure themselves and has died as a result. In these cases it is believed the person didn't think through their actions and they were impulsive in nature. People who die or attempt either are in extreme mental distress and hurting very badly, and there are some things that do and do not help.
Studies have shown that connectedness makes a massive difference to those who are suicidal, and can prevent suicide. We need to try our hardest to connect to those around us, to let them know they aren't alone, to let them know its OK to talk, that its OK to not be OK. Personally, I believe in a God who will never leave us and is always there for us, a God we can always be connected to, and therefore we are never alone and loves you and wants you alive. Being with someone when they are feeling suicidal may be difficult but it could save their life.
Judgemental comments do not help, even when they are given with the best intentions. Comments such as 'what do you have to be sad about?' Or 'people have it worse off' or 'you wouldn't really do it' do not help, in fact I believe they make it worse. Instead try telling them you care about them, you love them, your here to listen to them.
God has saved my life many many times, and his goodness and saving grace and love is my testimony of the past year. If your feeling low or suicidal he will be there with you, he won't leave you and he will love you no matter what, even when humans fail to know what to do, God knows and he will say what you need to hear if you listen.
If your suicidal please speak out, please go to your doctor and share with your friends and/or family and get some help, your important and no one else can play your part. If you know someone who is struggling, reach out to them, be there for them, listen to them.
You can also always call samaritans, on 08457 90 90 90, or call 111, or 999 in an emergency, or go to A&E